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Friends with Benefits – the Firefighter
In dating, it seems everyone wants something different. Some want an LTR, some want a fuck buddy, and some just want an FWB. FWB’s are casual, no commitment, no strings attached. It’s someone you have a connection with, an attraction to and the sex is (hopefully) amazing. The bad thing about FWB’s is if and when one of you catches feelings. I had an FWB for a year and a half; he was the sweetest, nicest guy and incredibly hot. He was a firefighter/paramedic and we met right before the pandemic hit. As you can imagine, his occupation could limit his ability to get together, he also lived and worked…
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Pick up lines – Update
I wrote about one guy with the best pickup line I’ve ever heard. “Let’s skip the endless chit chat, meet for a drink and make poor life choices together.” At the time I wrote the story he hadn’t responded to my text. Update: he responded, and we agreed to meet for a drink. Unfortunately, the pickup line was his best line. He was nice but very pretentious, a bit snobby and just not my type. We had nothing in common, nothing to talk about so that was the end of that on-line encounter. However, while I was waiting for my date to arrive, I got to talking to two guys…
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To each his own
There are all kinds of people in this world and in on-line dating I’ve encountered my fair share of dudes that are into “different” stuff. Met a guy on-line who was a veterinarian with his own veterinary practice. After we got to talking, he mentioned he wanted to be up front about something. He liked nylons, very sheer nylons. My first thought was that’s not so weird. I’m not opposed to wearing nylons with a dress but living in the desert with a great tan, I don’t see the need for nylons. That’s when I started wondering who would be wearing the nylons – me or him. Yep, it would…
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A guy’s perspective
I thought it would be fun to write about a guy’s experience with dating. Men have their fair share of odd dating experiences, just like women. One difference is men are asked for money where women are asked for “other things.” A guy I know met a woman in a local bar, hung out with her and she invited him back to her place. The interesting part is when he went back to the bar/restaurant a week later and saw her having dinner with her husband and children. The woman promptly gave him a look which he knew meant “you don’t know me.” I’ve written about guys who have lied…
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What are you looking for?
The first question you encounter on a dating app and it drives me nuts. Answering this question on a dating app is tricky because if you say you want a relationship, they delete you. I recently learned if you say “casual” it automatically means you are looking for a fuck buddy. Casual to me means meet someone, see if there is any attraction/chemistry, go out and do things – see a movie, have a drink, go hear a band. Casual to me means more than a fuck buddy, but I don’t want to marry you and have your babies. I just want to date. When you start dating, everyone says…
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When age isn’t just a number
I’ve written about age difference in another story, but this is a story about when age is in fact a number. I met a really nice guy way younger than me. For a young guy he is a very old soul, easy to talk to and I enjoyed being with him. Given the difference in our ages dating wasn’t realistic, and so we said we’d do “casual.” We spent a night together; it was amazing and very fun. Unfortunately for me, he realized he needs someone his own age and casual isn’t for him. I have no regrets whatsoever; everyone I meet teaches me something. I hate rejection and I…
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The Monsoon Beetle
Monsoon season has started in Arizona. I’m sure anyone reading this is asking what does that have to do with dating? Please read on. The first week of monsoons bring out this little black beetle that hangs around for about a week and then mysteriously goes away. I decided to read up on these little creatures. Turns out the monsoon beetle comes out the first week of the monsoons looking for love. Yep, you read that correctly. They come out to find their soulmate without having to swipe right. When they find Mr. or Ms. Right, they mate and then they die. Of course, my first thoughts were it’s great…
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Pick up lines
Online dating and meeting in real life are opportunities for some great pick-up lines. Some make me laugh and others leave me shaking my head. One of my brothers said to me that “is this seat taken?” is the oldest pick-up line out there. What if I really just want to know if anyone is already sitting on that bar stool? While out with a friend, a guy sat down next to me (he didn’t ask “is this seat taken?”). He then told me he’d been divorced for two years and during that time he only had sex once. Before I could say anything, he said to me and my…
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Is age just a number?
Can you date someone 5 years younger than you? What about 10 years younger? For men, I think that answer is a given. It’s accepted and even a foregone conclusion. For women, not so much. I recently moved to a new state and haven’t met a lot of guys my age; most are younger than me. Personally, I like dating younger men. They are less set in their ways, more spontaneous, more likely to want to go out and do things. I met someone while I was out one night; he was very easy on the eyes, could hold a conversation, had a great job. What’s the problem you ask?…
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Relationships
All of my stories on this blog are true and quite often there is humor in them. This one doesn’t have a happy ending, nor is it funny but it’s real. It was my first experience with dating after divorce. I met him at a party; we talked, he was nice and good looking, but I didn’t give it any thought beyond that. My entire life I was conditioned to believe no one would look at me twice. He changed all of that. During that party he approached me, kissed me and told me how hot I was. I stood there like an idiot saying nothing figuring he was drunk.…
A humerous look at dating in your 50’s