Friends with Benefits – the Firefighter

In dating, it seems everyone wants something different. Some want an LTR, some want a fuck buddy, and some just want an FWB.

FWB’s are casual, no commitment, no strings attached. It’s someone you have a connection with, an attraction to and the sex is (hopefully) amazing. The bad thing about FWB’s is if and when one of you catches feelings.

I had an FWB for a year and a half; he was the sweetest, nicest guy and incredibly hot. He was a firefighter/paramedic and we met right before the pandemic hit. As you can imagine, his occupation could limit his ability to get together, he also lived and worked an hour away from me. Despite his schedule and the distance, I still saw him a few times a month.

We talked about wanting to date after the pandemic was over, little did we know it wouldn’t be over for a very long time. I’m not sure when I started to catch feelings, but I did. When he got Covid and had to go on a ventilator I was so scared he wasn’t going to make it. Thankfully he survived.

I think that’s really when I realized I wanted more than an FWB with him. Unfortunately, he didn’t feel the same and he had also made a decision to move out of state to be closer to family.

I will never forget my time with him, and I have no regrets whatsoever. The sex was amazing, but it also about how I felt when I was with him. He made me feel beautiful, wanted and desired. He was affectionate, passionate and I loved every minute I spent with him. I still miss him and think about him often.

My advice before you start an FWB arrangement is have fun, go into it with eyes wide open but be prepared that it may very well turn out to be only an FWB and nothing more.