Fun in online dating
Stories about experiences with meeting people on-line
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Polar Opposites – update
In a post titled “Polar Opposites” I wrote about a guy I had started seeing; this post is the end of the opposites attract. Things were great for the first couple months and even though we were polar opposites we got along well. We had really good conversations and great chemistry. Not sure what happened but I started seeing infrequently and the communication waned. I really liked him, enjoyed being with him but realized this wasn’t working for me. It’s taking me time to figure out what I want; everyone I meet teaches me something. It took a lot to tell him it wasn’t working but its a step towards…
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Polar Opposites
Do opposites really attract? Recently met a guy on-line, first date went really well, great conversation and very hot kiss to end the date. We’ve been hanging out for about a month, things are going well but we are polar opposites in a few areas: He’s a gym guy, I’m not (but I love his hot body!). He doesn’t drink and is a homebody. I drink and love to go out with friends, listen to live music, go out to dinner. He hikes, I sit by the pool (and drink). There’s more but it got me thinking do opposites really attract? It’s always good to have separate interests so maybe…
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Dating Apps…Again
Haven’t written in a while, not since the “new dude” broke up with me in October. It took a while but I dusted myself off and got back on a dating app; matched with a guy right before Christmas. Super sweet, respectful, nice. I was unbelievably comfortable with him on the first date, had three more dates the first week after meeting; each one was better than the one before. It’s now April and we are still talking – so what’s the problem you ask? He’s works a bazillion hours a week and fits me in every now and then. Half of the people I know think this is a…
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Friends with Benefits – the Firefighter
In dating, it seems everyone wants something different. Some want an LTR, some want a fuck buddy, and some just want an FWB. FWB’s are casual, no commitment, no strings attached. It’s someone you have a connection with, an attraction to and the sex is (hopefully) amazing. The bad thing about FWB’s is if and when one of you catches feelings. I had an FWB for a year and a half; he was the sweetest, nicest guy and incredibly hot. He was a firefighter/paramedic and we met right before the pandemic hit. As you can imagine, his occupation could limit his ability to get together, he also lived and worked…
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Pick up lines – Update
I wrote about one guy with the best pickup line I’ve ever heard. “Let’s skip the endless chit chat, meet for a drink and make poor life choices together.” At the time I wrote the story he hadn’t responded to my text. Update: he responded, and we agreed to meet for a drink. Unfortunately, the pickup line was his best line. He was nice but very pretentious, a bit snobby and just not my type. We had nothing in common, nothing to talk about so that was the end of that on-line encounter. However, while I was waiting for my date to arrive, I got to talking to two guys…
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To each his own
There are all kinds of people in this world and in on-line dating I’ve encountered my fair share of dudes that are into “different” stuff. Met a guy on-line who was a veterinarian with his own veterinary practice. After we got to talking, he mentioned he wanted to be up front about something. He liked nylons, very sheer nylons. My first thought was that’s not so weird. I’m not opposed to wearing nylons with a dress but living in the desert with a great tan, I don’t see the need for nylons. That’s when I started wondering who would be wearing the nylons – me or him. Yep, it would…
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A guy’s perspective
I thought it would be fun to write about a guy’s experience with dating. Men have their fair share of odd dating experiences, just like women. One difference is men are asked for money where women are asked for “other things.” A guy I know met a woman in a local bar, hung out with her and she invited him back to her place. The interesting part is when he went back to the bar/restaurant a week later and saw her having dinner with her husband and children. The woman promptly gave him a look which he knew meant “you don’t know me.” I’ve written about guys who have lied…
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What are you looking for?
The first question you encounter on a dating app and it drives me nuts. Answering this question on a dating app is tricky because if you say you want a relationship, they delete you. I recently learned if you say “casual” it automatically means you are looking for a fuck buddy. Casual to me means meet someone, see if there is any attraction/chemistry, go out and do things – see a movie, have a drink, go hear a band. Casual to me means more than a fuck buddy, but I don’t want to marry you and have your babies. I just want to date. When you start dating, everyone says…
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The Monsoon Beetle
Monsoon season has started in Arizona. I’m sure anyone reading this is asking what does that have to do with dating? Please read on. The first week of monsoons bring out this little black beetle that hangs around for about a week and then mysteriously goes away. I decided to read up on these little creatures. Turns out the monsoon beetle comes out the first week of the monsoons looking for love. Yep, you read that correctly. They come out to find their soulmate without having to swipe right. When they find Mr. or Ms. Right, they mate and then they die. Of course, my first thoughts were it’s great…
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Pick up lines
Online dating and meeting in real life are opportunities for some great pick-up lines. Some make me laugh and others leave me shaking my head. One of my brothers said to me that “is this seat taken?” is the oldest pick-up line out there. What if I really just want to know if anyone is already sitting on that bar stool? While out with a friend, a guy sat down next to me (he didn’t ask “is this seat taken?”). He then told me he’d been divorced for two years and during that time he only had sex once. Before I could say anything, he said to me and my…