The Bartender

When I met the Bartender, he was in the process of selling his house moving out of state. I chose to ignore the fact that was moving to another state (within driving distance).

I also ignored his foot fetish which was a first for me. Whenever I got a pedicure, I texted him a picture of my toes because I knew he loved it. When we were together, he loved touching my feet and yes, occasionally sucking on them (the things you do for love, right?) We had fun dates and romantic nights so I ignored all the red flags.

He moved to Wisconsin and he told me our journey together had ended. But somehow it didn’t, because he kept in touch and asked me to come visit.

So, off I went to the land of cheese. We had a great weekend together; I got to meet his friends and co-workers and had a lot of fun. By the end of the weekend, we both agreed we wanted the relationship to work. I went home very optimistic and that’s when things went south.

During the next month communication from him was spotty at best. The final straw (or it should have been) was when he said something really rude in a text and I told him I was done and to fuck off. Four days went by before he called to apologize and asked for another chance, to which of course I agreed (I know, I’m a dumbass). He said he was coming into town in a few days and wanted me to meet his parents and then travel back to Wisconsin with him to stay. I thought this is awesome, we are going to move forward.

Two weeks went by with not a word. I texted him and basically said “what the fuck” You want me to meet your parents and then nothing?? He responded that he’s been “really busy” and he’s been working. So is the rest of the general population. That was a month ago and I haven’t heard a word from him since. He won’t answer a phone call, and won’t respond to a text. He has read receipts turned on so I know he is receiving and reading texts.

Ghosted again! How does one go from “I want you to meet my parents” to not responding to any form of communication? As I’ve said in other posts, ghosting is cowardly especially if you’ve been dating someone. Why can’t I pick a good guy? Is it me or is it them? My heart has taken a beating in dating and this was a particularly hard one to accept.