What the heck happened?

This past April a friend and I headed to my favorite beach for some sun. At the time of the trip I was still on a dating app which picks up your location.

I came across the profile of a nice looking local guy and swiped right. He messaged me and we quickly started texting and talking. He was intelligent, funny, and very nice. We decided to meet while I was in town and he took me and my friend to the beach and to lunch. On paper he was good, in person he was great; very easy to talk to, witty, polite, successful and single! Both my friend and I were impressed.

After I got home from the beach we continued to talk every day and made plans to see each other again. He offered to come to where I live but I decided to go back to the beach and he then offered to pay for my ticket. Since I’m an independent woman who can pay her own tab, I declined his offer. So off I went for the weekend to see this great guy. We were both really excited to see each other and I kept thinking maybe this on-line stuff does work.

First day we spent a couple hours talking and relaxing by the pool. We spent the next day at the beach and then he took me to dinner at a very nice restaurant on the water. After spending the day with him I wasn’t sure he and I were a match but thought I would give it a chance. After dinner he dropped me off at my hotel and said he would see me at 12 the next day and to figure out what I wanted to do. Good so far, right? That’s what I thought.

Next day the clock strikes noon but he doesn’t show up. I text and get no response. Not responding to texts is one of my pet peeves. Anyway, he finally calls at 4:30 but I missed the call because I was very busy relaxing in the pool with a adult beverage in my hand. He left a message asking me to give him a call and when I called back a half hour later, well you guessed it, he didn’t pick up.

My flight home was the next day, I texted on the way to the airport and no response. I was speechless at this point; he seemed like such a nice, respectful, polite guy. If my friend hadn’t met him I could have assumed my judgment was off but we both thought he was great.

Why the ghosting? It’s immature, rude and cruel. I have to assume he knew we weren’t a great match either but why not say that? I’ve never heard from him again. How do you just ignore someone and why?? This is the part of dating that makes absolutely no sense to me. Ghosting is so common in dating these days and it’s very sad that people don’t respect others enough to say sorry, I don’t think we are a match but best of luck to you. How hard can that be????? Next!!